Wednesday, June 10, 2009

90/10 Principle of Stephen Covey

那天朋友通过 msn 和我分享这一篇蛮让人深思的文章 。

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life :

(at least the way you react to situations).

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? For example . You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say," It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.

Both started the same.

Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.



据老一辈说脚踏车也和自然界的生物一样有分雄与雌 !
没有的话就是雌 ( 嗯嗯 ! 就是和性器官一样 ! )
如果之前有一只铁, 过后却意外被折断了 , 那就是阿瓜 ! ( 我乱掰的 )
而照片中的是一台正妹 ! XD


Vincent Cho said...


*~店长~* said...

Vincent Cho : biong 客气 ! 哈哈!

嘉俽 Jiaxin said...



歪歪 said...


腳踏車那個...我看不懂 XD

迷迭香 said...



七仔 CJ said...


嘉麗 ChiaLi said...


RoN MuN YeW said...

This principle is meaningful...
Try apply this principle, u will feel world is wonderful...

凌迟魔女 said...


*~店长~* said...

迷迭香 : 对啊! 有些事发生了,我们还在哪儿怨天怨地!那样反而会造就更多的麻烦! XD

七仔 CJ :嗯...每个人的生活都会遭遇这样的问题! 希望对你有帮助! XD

嘉麗 ChiaLi : 欢迎你的到访! ^^

RoN MuN YeW : yup...^^

凌迟魔女 : 可以靠人工''繁殖''啊! 呵呵!(说悄悄话)

Somewhere in Singapore said...

Thanks for sharing....

Sugar Bean said...

I like the post of 90/10 Principle.

Thanks for sharing.

fufu said...

hahahhaha 我以前的partner是男的
因爲我是男baby 也是男 >.<

fufu said...


嘉CacinG進 said...

所以什么事,都还是想想是不是自己的问题先 XD

啊?!脚车有酱来分的咩?!?! -.-

*~店长~* said...

Somewhere in Singapore: u r welcome !

Sugar Bean : u r welcome too ! ^^

fufu :呃...哪有可能哦! 哈哈哈! 开玩笑的 ! 男与男也可以是兄弟情深啊! ( 除非你自认自己是...) XD

嘉CacinG進 :对啊! 凡事都转牛角尖也不是办法! XD

伊娃 said...

还记得我的计算机-jingle belle吗?哈哈,她是女的。不过最近换了电池后正常回了!


蕴如 said...


fufu said...

hahahah 因爲通常都是男+女的咯 =p

Piano_lover said...

hi, 九州先生, 我以前業是九州姑娘,